Agents regularly face pressure from clients, the business, and themselves, but all it takes is a reframed perspective to alleviate that stress, according to a leading professional mentor.
Speaking at the recent AREC 2026, professional mentor and founder of Mojo Crowe, Ben Crowe, told agents about the importance of reframing their mindset and approach to achieve success.
Crowe said the major issue in becoming a high performer in any field is a misunderstanding of what success means.
“The goalposts just keep moving, and they don’t realise that the definition of success is the alignment between what you truly value and how you live your life,” Crowe said.
According to Crowe, there were two ways to measure success: one was externally focused on actions, while the other was internal.
He said that when agents wake up and approach the day with a focus on their own perspective and internal metric for success, they start to see things differently.
“Here’s the really cool thing: your identity becomes less about what you do and more about what you value. Our whole lives, we don’t realise we’ve got the power to decide our perspective,” he said.
“For me, the greatest discovery of all time is how a person can change their entire life simply by changing their perspective.”
According to Crowe, one of the most powerful shifts in perspective could come from something as simple as changing a single letter in a phrase, shifting the mindset from an “I’ve got to” approach to an “I get to” approach.
By reframing the nature of the tasks, Crowe said that professionals would begin to appreciate what they get to do, rather than dwelling on what needs to be done.
“Something as simple as going from an O to an E changes your perspective.”
“It’s extraordinary how it can remove the pressure and expectations from our lives.”
The secret to becoming a successful leader
Crowe said another opportunity for a shift in perspective came in how they handled the transition into leadership.
He said professionals needed to understand that the skills that had enabled them to succeed up to that point became less important as they took on greater responsibility for others, requiring a significant shift in priorities.
He said the most common mistake high-performing professionals made when moving into a leadership position was failing to understand that their job no longer revolved around their own performance.
“When you become a leader, there’s got to be a metaphorical stake in the ground that from this moment on, it’s not about you, it’s about them.”
“When you flip your philosophy of leadership from ‘I’ to ‘we’, that’s when you become an authentic leader.”
The most dangerous word in the world
Crowe said it was important for agents to take some of the pressure off their shoulders by eliminating a damaging word from their thought processes – expectations.
He said that by focusing on their own definition of success rather than what others think, agents could alleviate the pressure on their own shoulders.
“It’s not so much the word; it’s how you are defining it, which is causing all of the damage, because expectations kill performance,” he said.
“We are defining expectations the wrong way, and we are getting so distracted by other people’s expectations of us rather than our own.”
To lessen the feeling of pressure, Crowe said that professionals needed to learn to accept what they couldn’t control and act on what they could change.
He said that a useful way for agents to remind themselves to stay targeted was to create a list of things they needed to accept and things they could focus on changing.
When it comes to professional performance, Crowe said there were three major facets an individual could change: their intention, their effort and their mindset.
Belief outweighs confidence
Crowe said there were two core beliefs that held more power for an individual than any others: the belief that they are worthy no matter what, and the belief in their potential.
He said that agents who believed in their own potential would fundamentally change their relationship with uncertainty.
Crowe said that even if agents followed all the advice they were given and became the best they could be, it didn’t necessarily mean they would be professionally successful.
“It doesn’t guarantee you win, but it does guarantee you bring the best possible version of you to the dance floor.”
“And in my opinion, that’s success,” Crowe concluded.
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